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B6 Staunton, News-Leader, Sunday, December 19, 1982 Engagements announced Father's silent suffering ry causes family heartache il.p,J.M. FT. I It By Abigail Van Buren 1982 by Universal Press Synrlicalt; Abby, he was absolutely serious. I told him I thought it was so funny I was going to write to Dear Abby about it and he said, "Go ahead." I'm signing my name and address, hut if you use this in your column, sign me FlJBBKRGASTKI) IN MINNESOTA DEAR FLABBERGASTED: Hooray for your husband. With his attitude, he may grow older, but he'll never grow old.

However, it's time he loosened the purse strings just a teensy-weensy tad. DEAR ABBY: Our family is faring a very difficult problem. Our father, who is in his mid-fiOs, had surgery and radiation treatments for cancer. He says he is "all right," but he looks very, very bad and appears to be failing. He will not permit his doctor to tell us anything! My mother has talked to Dad's doctor, hut she has been unable to get any information out of him.

He refuses to tell her if Dad's surgery was "successful," what the prognosis is, or anything at all pertaining to Dad's condition. We can only guess that Dad is terminally ill, but we feel frustrated and helpless not being able to discuss Dad's condition, his chances for recovery, or even how much longer he has to live if he is dying. The doctor says that doctor-patient confidentiality precludes his telling us anything without Dad's consent, and Dad has forbidden him to disclose anything about his condition or what the future has in store. What etimiM uf ftn'' Dudley-Strccener Miss Rhonda Lynne Stracener and William G. Dudley Jr.

exchanged wedding vows on Saturday afternoon at 2 o'clock at the home of the bridegroom's parents. The bride is the daughter of B.J. Stracener of Burlington, and Mrs. Judith Stracener of Houston, Texas. Parents of the bridegroom are Mr.

and Mrs. W.G. Dudley Sr. of Rt. 5, Staunton.

The double-ring ceremony was performed by the Rev. John L. Hot-tel. Miss Cindy Roberson was maid of honor. The father of the bridegroom served as best man.

A reception was given by the bridegroom's mother following the ceremony. Hostesses were Mrs. Sherry Martin and Miss Roberson. After a wedding trip to West Virginia, the couple will reside in West Augusta. Mrs.

Dudley is a graduate of Daniel Boone High School in Jonesboro, Tenn. Dudley, a graduate of Buffalo Gap High School, is employed by W.G. Dudley Electrical Contractor. Bad names, good fish ITHACA, N.Y. (AP) They may be ugly and their names unattractive and unfamiliar, but "undermar-keted" or "trash" fish are inexpensive and highly nutritious, says Glenna Kophen of Cornell Cooperative Extension at Cornell University.

Among the oddly named seasonal fish that she cites which are unpopular but relatively cheap and easy to prepare are shark, monkfish, mussels, skate, squid and dogfish. MISS WOOD and SHICKEL MISS MILLER and PERDUE DEAR ABBY: I am a young French woman who recently moved to Dallas. My problem is that I am afflicted with a French accent that is driving my Texas friends it imitate me. lauth at mv mispronun Miller- Wood- Perdue Shickel A SUFFERING FAMILY DEAR FAMILY: It would appear that your father is trying to spare you some bad news. There are specialists today who counsel patients in your father's position.

Ask his doctor to try to persuade him to accept that kind of help. The strong, silent person who tries to protect his loved ones from the realities of life (and death) does himself and his family a terrible disservice. Now is the time for openness and honesty. The patient and his family need to express their anger, frustration and rage, as well as their love for one another. ciations and never for one minute let me forget about my accent.

I have been more than patient with these rude people and have tried to get them to stop making such a big thing out of my accent, but they continue to tease me, saying it is so "cute." What is the matter with these people here? How can I firmly, but nicely, tell these Texans to stop that nonsense? A FROGGY IN DALIES DEAR FROGGY: You can't, but if it's any comfort, many Texans have been teased, imitated and laughed at because of their regional accent. Any kind of accent sets one apart from the others, which can be a tremendous asset. So don't knock it, chere, use it for all it's worth. The engagement of Miss Robin Lynn Miller to Richard A. Perdue Jr.

has been announced by the prospective bride's parents, Mr. and Mrs. Richard T. Miller of 1815 Orange St. The wedding will take place June 25.

Miss Miller is a senior at Robert E. Lee High School. Perdue, son of Richard A. Perdue and Mrs. Rachel Price, both of Newports News, was graduated from Warwick High School and attended Thomas Nelson Community College.

He is employed by Harris Truck and Auto Body Shop in Newport News. The engagement of Miss Rebecca Lewis Wood to Gary Wine Shickel has been announced by the prospective bride's mother, Mrs. Janet S. Wood of Rt. 3, Staunton.

An April 2 wedding is planned. Miss Wood was graduated from Fort Defiance High School and received a BS degree in early childhood education from Radford University. She is employed by Community Child Care Center. Shickel, son of Mr. and Mrs.

Carlton H. Shickel of Bridgewater, was graduated from Turner Ashby High School and received a BS degree in mechanical engineering from Virginia Tech. He is employed by Shickel Machine Shop, Bridgewater. DEAR ABBY: I am 85 and my husband is 92. We've been married for 67 years and recently came into an unexpected inheritance, which delighted us both.

On learning about our good fortune, I said to my husband, "Now I can throw out all of our chipped cups and rickety furniture and buy new things." He replied, "Oh, no, we must save this windfall for our old age" Problems? You'll feel better if you get them off your chest. Write to Abby, P.O. Box 38923, Hollywood, Calif. 90038. For a personal reply, please enclose a stamped, self-addressed envelope.

Plan some strategies in the battle of the bulge i MISS FLANDERS MISSREID BLACKSBURG Friends and family demonstrate their love during the holiday season by serving extra special food that too often is high in calories. "Those who wish to keep their weight under control have more temptation during this time of year and so might plan some strategies to avoid consuming too many extra calories," said a Virginia Tech Ex- can be used, the College of Human Resources faculty member said. Simple food, unadorned with sauces and uncluttered with sweeteners, usually is easier on the pallet and takes less preparation time, she said. Don't prepare more food than is needed for a dinner party and end up with leftovers. It is often the leftovers that do the tempting.

Miss Barton's suggestions included "don't give up the diet." If the dieters succumb to eating too much at one meal, they should return to their diets immediately after the meal. they have more control over the calories. They can pass up the butter-basted turkey which has been injected with fat, and select a regular bird. They can serve the white breast meat of the turkey which is the leanest portion. The cooks can "de-fat" the gravy, removing some calories, Miss Barton said.

To do this, place the drippings from the turkey in the freezer for 10 minutes. The fat will congeal on the surface and can be skimmed off. Low-calorie garnishes, such as sliced hard-cooked eggs, watercress or parsley sprigs and carrot curls, tension specialist in foods and nutrition When dieters are the guests, they might start planning a few days ahead of the event. Cut down on calories a day or two before and after. Eat a small meal before going to ward off hunger.

Decide the food limits before the affair, such as "one cookie, one drink, no potato chips, three corn chips, no dip and only vegetable hors d'oeu-vres." Plan extra physical activities, such as carolling or games, to offset the extra calories, said specialist Jo Anne Barton. At the party, stand or sit at the opposite side of the room from the food. If drinks are served, select water with ice cubes or nurse one drink through the evening. When dieters are host and hostess, Flanders- Reid- Wilkins McPherson Weller Potter Janet L. Wilkins of Rt.

2, Staunton, announces the engagement of her daughter, Sandra Lee, to Gene H. Potter son of Wanda Potter of 208 Church St. The wedding will take place in February. Whirlpool MICROWAVE OVEN NEW ORLEANS, La. Mr.

and Mrs. Dudley D. Flanders of 6039 Camp St. announce the engagement ot their daughter, Dana Mason of Staunton, to Richard Fontaine McPherson son and stepson of Mr. and Mrs.

Richard F. McPherson of Staunton and son of the late Mrs. Janet B. McPherson. The wedding will take place March in New Orleans.

Miss Flanders was graduated from Mary Baldwin College, Staunton, and is manager of Ye Merry Be Pub, Staunton. McPherson was graduated from the University of Virginia, Charlottesville, and is a realtor with Staunton Real Estate. Mr. and Mrs. Harold W.

Reid of Boxley Farm, Staunton, announce the engagement of their daughter, Kimberley Love, to John Scott Weller, son of Mr. and Mrs. A. Taylor Weller of Center Hill Farm, Rt. 5, Staunton.

No date has been set for the wedding. Miss Reid was graduated from Robert E. Lee High School and is employed by American Cowboy Music Nashville, and Monkey Business of Staunton. Weller was graduated from Buffalo Gap High School and Virginia Tech. He is employed by the Livestock Breeders Journal, Macon, Ga.

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